Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Venting...and frustrated.

Sigh... I just can never win. First, I head to Guatemala. Left my teen son and his girlfriend in charge of the house. Came home and found my lilac trees were gone, no gas in the grill, a new charcoal grill out of the box but only the lid remains (the bottom grill part is still missing in action), my front door askew and uneven, my bedroom window broken (they still won't admit what happened there, but hubby discovered some of his Tylenol 3 pills missing-sounds like some partying was going on while we were gone)

Not exactly sure what went on while we were gone, but people have told me quite a few BBQ parties and other things I would not have ever allowed while here. There were adults present, but they partied just as much as the kids did. (the girlfriend's family of course... pure Jerry Springer material if I say so myself) Things are missing, and I am trying to make a list of what damages were done so I can justify the reason WHY I told my son and his girlfriend to leave my home to his probation officer since he is just 5 months shy of his 18th birthday. He's had plenty of chances before, and things have not changed a bit. They are now living with her mother and her family...perhaps it's the best thing for them all since they have similar habits. I worry about the grandchildren though, and what will happen to them. I won't be around to monitor the situation like I did at home. And they should not have to pay the price because their parents are losers.

We will know more when I visit the probation officer in a couple of days. I am hurt, disappointed, and angry. And again, unable to trust. They knew the rules...and they broke them. So that is why I have not been uploading pics of my trip or posting my normal fun posts... because I have been dealing with doing an inventory of what has been taken, damaged, etc... Bear with me during these technical difficulties, I will be back soon enough.

4 comments:

Andrea @ See it! Love it! Win it! said...

I'm really sorry you're dealing with this drama! Hugs.

elsiee said...

having your child betray your trust is the hardest thing - I know what you're going through I hope the positive side of this difficult situation manifests itself to you very soon

Michele P. said...

thanks for the kind words everyone... hoping for the best with the meeting with the probation officer later today...

norm said...

My parents used to leave me home when they went on vacation back in the 70's. Our house was back in a pine woods about a 1000 feet off the road-we had some parties. My Dad kept a keg in his den that we would drain while he was gone but we would mark how full it was and buy a new one, then drink it down to the line, I like to think we were helping keep hi beer fresh.
My kids have parties at my house when we leave, we kind of expect it because they are kids. And yes they have done some damage over the years, holes in walls, someone crashed the garage door, the mailbox had to be replaced but no one was hurt. The rule was if they were drinking they had better not let anyone leave or there would be hell to pay. I hid my booze and any meds I might have, just to keep them honest